I really struggle with taking time just for me...
I don't know about you, but when I do take a little time to myself I struggle to truly relax and enjoy it. Here is why...I will name all the guilt scenarios: mom, wife, daughter, friend, neighbor, employee and business owner.
One of my most favorite things to do for myself is getting a pedicure. But- what do I do for the hour & twenty minutes I am there? I check email, make a grocery list, wonder how my parents are doing, is my husband really okay that I am gone? I am telling you, my brain goes in all kinds of crazy directions. And, I know I am not alone in this. I truly wish I could just tune it all out, but I do not know how. I am just on over-drive all the time.
Sometimes, I secretly get so jealous of my husband because he can just sit down in front of the TV and tune the world out for an hour. I am really amazed at his uncanny ability to do this. BUT...being the woman I am is actually not so bad. It's remarkable actually. All I have to know is that each day when I lay my head down, I did the best I could with the time I had during that day. That I took care of my family, my job, my team, the very best I could. I am a nurturer at heart, so maybe I will never be comfortable with taking time just for me. Guess what?? That is okay! You have to own who you are and I will own this one.
So, if you are like me, just know we are all okay. It is okay to feel good about what you do get done in a day and how you are taking care of what you feel is your priority. If you can find moments to take care of you, that is awesome...may it always be a work in progress just like life itself.
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Its so nice to hear someone else say that its okay to be happy taking care of your husband and kids instead of making time for just myself. Why do most think it is a bad thing to put others first? They are the most important things in my life..and knowing i did the very best for them at the end of the day makes me content and proud. There is nothing better than when one of my teen sons looks at me with his head tilted to the side and says “Hey mom? I love you.” Like it just dawns on them out of the blue sometimes lol.
— Capri Gay